How to Recognize Abuse
**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys
**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too
**Domestic Violence Against Men – Know the Signs
**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
**Battered Men, Battered Husbands
**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse
**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse
**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused
Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)
National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-237-8255
Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)
Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-784-2433
National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846
National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888
Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733
**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Support Groups
Pandora’s Aquarium – Chat (includes chats specifically for men)
Pandora’s Aquarium – Forums (includes forums specifically for men)
How to Find a Shelter
Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)
SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)
How to Find a Therapist
**Male Survivor Therapist Directory
Mental Health Services Locator
Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens
Love is Respect Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 (Hotline for teens)
Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444
Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741
ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453
Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300
National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929
Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999
Stop it Now Hotline: 1-888-773-2362 (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)
Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)
Other Resource Lists
(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)
**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)
**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence
**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources
**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources
**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)
Tag Archives: tw abuse
In regards to your reblog about popular tumblr blogs. There have also been deeply unsettling instances that are like online lynchings. Where a blogger just says “btw, I’ve talked on private with that blog and it turns out they are a p*******e. y’all know what to do.” And then days later, even though there aren’t any concrete proofs or it was just an exaggeration, that person ends up deleting their blog. Imagine holding that much authority that you ruin part of someone’s life.
[this post, OP is @pazithigallifreya]

Yep, it IS deeply unsettling to think about how someone’s life could be ruined over a false accusation. There’s something intoxicating about saying you’ve found a monster and want to rally ppl to your cause to go destroy it. That’s been around since long before the internet and will go on in whatever form of communication people have available, whether the monster is a real one or not.
“btw, I’ve talked on private with that blog and it turns out they are a p*******e. y’all know what to do.”
^I feel terrible saying this, but I couldn’t trust this person at face value. Maybe if it was a very close friend, but even then, I wouldn’t mobilize ppl online to attack the accused person. I’m not a police officer, I would probably tell that victim to go to the police. The police have the tools to find the accused, the time and training to build the evidence properly and legally.
Keep in mind, too, that tweets/chats/etc. can be digitally manipulated, like this tweet (although it could be real for all I know, but I would hope not):

Then there’s the thornier matter of people who ARE guilty of offenses, from the small to the large. There are abusers out there who trawl for prey. There are also people who wrote something in the past that they may have apologized for and definitely deeply regret.
I’ve certainly made mistakes and written cruel things I would take back if I could. I can’t apologize enough or genuinely enough for how I’ve hurt people.
[Imagine holding that much authority that you ruin part of someone’s life.]
…And so often they end up with a rabble ready to crucify anyone who doesn’t do as they are told, and that’s when I really run for the hills…
^I’m of the belief that no individual online should have that kind of power, this is why we have a legal system which determines guilt and punishments fairly. No judicial system is perfect but it has to be better than some stranger online telling a mob to pick up torches and pitchforks to attack another stranger online.
Loustat, and why Louis isn’t a liar for saying Lestat was awful, and why you don’t blame the victim holy hell
There has been some excellent discourse around Louis and Lestat this week, and the question of how their relationship is presented in terms of love vs abuse, and abusive love. I’ve seen some great discussion from @monstersinthecosmos and @secret-les-mis-blog-ooo in particular, and that was neat. But I’ve also seen an alarming take that Louis is just a big fat liar and Lestat is ~misunderstood and, fam, I’m not here for that.
I’ve written out my thoughts on the abuse and what canon gives us to parse, and also I’m going to talk a bit about some vaguely triggering stuff from my own life with regard to abuse and gaslighting so whilst the VC part of this post is up for discussion, don’t come at me on the real life stuff kthnx. 🙂
I had chills reading this, both for the subject matter and
@wicked-felina’s writing style, which as always, is sensitive and even some humorous touches while addressing even the darkest topics.
I’m so sorry you went through all that, I’m grateful that you shared it with us, especially in the context of this ship.
Fiction is a way to explore the real world and the darker topics, we can see in L/L than an abusive person can be beautiful, charismatic, and even loving sometimes.
To my reading, it is clear that Lestat was/is an abusive character. We can still love fictional characters even as we unpack their flaws and try to reason out how they became what they became. Fiction can entertain but it can also be informative, and sometimes it’s both.