rosebushprince:

you never have to force yourself to change to “prove your abuser wrong” about whatever they said or implied about you. your traits or even flaws are never justification for the abuse you endured.

the end goal of recovering from abuse is not proving them wrong, being more successful than them, or anything of the sort if you don’t want to and/or can’t do any of the above. it’s living without the person(s) who hurt you, and being safe and happy doing whatever you feel the right path is for you.

you are strong and deserving of happiness on your own terms.