ms-qualia:

youngblackandvegan:

dating is supposed to be empowering. it’s supposed to make you feel good. it should be about two people, enthusiastically wanting to get to know each other and spend time together. it’s supposed to make you feel good and add joy and fun to your life

if talking to/dealing with/dating/getting to know a person isn’t like that, it’s probably a waste of time

YES.  Lovelies, do not, do not, do not spend time with people who don’t make you feel good.  I don’t mean they kiss your ass.  I mean, you shouldn’t come away from interactions feeling tired, or less-than, or boring, or embarrassing.  Relationships are food for your soul, not a drain on it.