merciful-death:

ooc; Okay though one last ooc post today before I disappear because this is a story I need to share on here

So like, the other day at work, I was trying to light this candle that’s in the women’s restroom.  It was lit almost all the time, so I was like, ok, there’s matches somewhere around here.  I spent like almost thirty minutes looking for these fucking matches and then a coworker got back and I was like “WHERE.DO.YOU.HIDE.THE.MATCHES” and it was revealed to me that smokers possess this magical fire instrument called a fucking lighter

So she handed me the lighter and I was going to light the candle, but then I realized

Rosie

You don’t know how to use a fucking lighter

So I fumbled with this cigarette lighter for like two minutes being like “DO I PRESS A BUTTON HOW DO I DO THIS PEOPLE MAKE IT LOOK SIMPLE…” before giving up and admitting defeat

I tried to use it again like three days later and still couldn’t figure it out

IN MY DEFENSE I HAVE NO SMOKERS IN MY FAMILY AND HAVE NEVER HAD A NEED FOR A CIGARETTE LIGHTER???  I JUST ALWAYS USE MATCHES TO LIGHT SHIT????

So that is my story

You may think I’m actually Louis but in reality I don’t know how to use a cigarette lighter

I have failed

Better stick with matches, then. hahaha!

No, actually I know that feel, bro. First time I had to use a lighter, I knew that the wheel mechanism had something to do with it, but my finger kept slipping. Turns out you don’t use your pointer finger, you use your thumb, and you want it to be nice and dry to get a good grip *facepalm*

Just got this message from an Anon, and if it is to be believed, it sounds like AR had an unnecessarily vitriolic reaction to an innocent fan *hugs Anon* 

I know I should have just posted your story without commentary but it got me to thinking about the criticism aspect of your story… I’m always intrigued by these kinds of interactions with Mater Glorioso, if anyone has more, please share!

On criticism: when one criticizes someone’s work… telling them what you don’t like about it… whether they are a Tumblr RPer, or a globally-known best-selling author of incalculable wealth/prestige, that’s a very delicate subject. Especially for THIS best-selling author of incalculable wealth/prestige, who hasn’t had a beta-reader since VC book 4 (that is speculation) and won’t collaborate with anyone (including her best-selling author of a son) because of the level of control she needs in order to craft her stories. Criticism can come across as a personal attack bc an author’s writing is the conduit to their deepest self; some of the best writing seems to be explorations of what they want to explore in their own psyche. 

For this reason, I try not to negatively criticize anyone’s work negatively bc I know I can be vicious. One has to establish a foundation of trust first. Even that is not always enough. That’s why people choose their beta-readers carefully, when they want one, bc it has to be someone that can criticize constructively and if they DO come across as hurtful, the writer knows it’s unintentionally hurtful. 

I don’t mean to criticize you for criticizing her, just attempting to explain why she may have overreacted the way it sounds like she did *hugs Anon again*