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As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.

Nic Sheff (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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rosebushprince:

you never have to force yourself to change to “prove your abuser wrong” about whatever they said or implied about you. your traits or even flaws are never justification for the abuse you endured.

the end goal of recovering from abuse is not proving them wrong, being more successful than them, or anything of the sort if you don’t want to and/or can’t do any of the above. it’s living without the person(s) who hurt you, and being safe and happy doing whatever you feel the right path is for you.

you are strong and deserving of happiness on your own terms.

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vvhitehouse:

aneastcoastbreeze:

vvhitehouse:

advantages to wearing oversized sweaters:

  • instant cute outfit with minimal effort
  • it enhances the coziness when u drink hot beverages
  • sweater paws are guaranteed to make u feel 43% more adorable
  • u can unbutton ur jeans and no one will know

disadvantages to wearing oversized sweaters:

Guys think they’re totally not cute lol

the day i dress for a man is the day they dress me in my coffin to see jesus

But don’t you see,” Daniel said, “all human decisions are made like this. Do you think the mother knows what will happen to the child in her womb? Dear God, we are lost, I tell you. What does it matter if you give it to me and it’s wrong! There is no wrong! There is only desperation, and I would have it! I want to live forever with you.

The Queen of the Damned, Anne Rice (via fuckyeahdanielmolloy)

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Or you could try to play a role for someone, keep them on the surface as long as you can… they may leave ANYWAY bc you weren’t willing to open up. 

Let’s throw away the idea of capturing someone like a fish on a line and trying to claim them, some kind of bizarre ownership situation. Share as much of yourself as you are able to, and if they leave because of what they learn, then you can enjoy the time you spent together and be free to find someone who is more compatible with you.

You may never find someone who is perfectly compatible with you. OTP’s are a great thing to fantasize about but not necessarily realistic.

Be happy on your journey through this life, take care of yourself, and if someone shares that journey with you (as a friend or as a significant other) for a period of time, great, if not, also great.

Throw away the idea that you need someone to complete you. You complete you. 

Source: poems-and-words

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gothiccharmschool:

You will occasionally make bad decisions! Sometimes you will make ASTONISHINGLY bad decisions! This happens, and pretending it doesn’t can lead to even worse consequences in the future. The important thing is to recognize when you’ve made a bad decision, do what you can to cope with your part of the aftermath, AND PAY ATTENTION SO YOU DON’T DO IT AGAIN.