Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.
Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?
And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run
But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually
Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.
Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!
Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.
TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?
QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.
WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?
GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain removed you of them? Ding ding!
ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?
PRO TIP – The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.
I reblogged this recently but it got better and ive been thinking and learning a lot abt love languages so
Effective for easing bloating (a common companion of Aunt Flo), menstrual cramps and fatigue, the cooling peppermint tea is a powerful ammunition that you can arm yourself with.
Now, the secret ingredient we are talking about here is menthol.
Menstrual cramps are commonly caused by contractions and spasms of our uterus muscles. Therefore, with its anti-spasmodic properties, peppermint tea helps to treat the muscles in the walls of the uterus. Apart from relieving discomfort caused by your cramps, it is also commonly used as a stress and fatigue reliever. Drink 1 cup of peppermint tea 2-3 times a day before and during days of your menstruation and you can expect to experience a major improvement in your mood and cramps.
Cinnamon Tea
Similar to peppermint tea, cinnamon has anti-spasmodic properties that helps to reduce cramps and menstrual pain. As an added bonus, it also works great as an anti-inflammatory which means that it is able to offer pain relief for your cramps!
To make cinnamon tea, you can simply add cinnamon to some water and boil it for 15 minutes. For some sweetness, add in your preferred choice of milk or honey. That said, if cinnamon tea is not the thing for you, you can always opt to sprinkle them on to your smoothies/ porridge/ pancakes and experience the same benefits!
Red Raspberry Leaf Tea
Red raspberry leaf cleanses the blood of the excess hormone and minimises any hormonal imbalance. Containing both fragarine and tannins, this tea will aid you in your combat against PMS symptoms such as cramps, nausea and diarrhea.
For heavy bleeders, this tea also helps to tighten the muscles in your pelvic region which also helps to reduce the cramps that are caused by spasms. For relieving those nasty PMS symptoms, simply start having them 1-2 weeks before your period and continue having them through your period to slow down the blood flow.
Chamomile tea
Chamomile tea not only helps with bowel movements but it is also known to help ease menstrual cramps and bring crankiness level down a notch!
I can confirm that drinking raspberry tea is AMAZING for helping with cramps. A cup of that and some naproxen in the morning and I can go the whole day without feeling too much like trash. Even on day one when my cramps can be debilitating this little trick makes it bearable. Not to mention the raspberry gives me a little boost of energy when loss of blood has me feeling exhausted.
My doctor was actually the one who recommended this to me, but it’s always good to check with the medical professional you visit because everyone’s body is different!
Here are some scientific facts about blood loss for all you psychopaths writers out there.
This is actually very nice. I like the soda bottles as reference. (I remember when I was writing ‘Wizards of Ceres’ how I had to do a similar soda-bottle conversion to try to work out how much blood Fai could drink from Kurogane without killing him.)
On the topic of vampires incidentally, this basically means that there is no reason why feeding from someone should necessitate killing them, unless the vamp can chug two soda bottles worth of liquid in one go or carelessly leaves the bottle open when they’re done
@fieldofclover thought this might come in handy for, you know, vampirey things
Ooh, I like this! The bottles as a reference makes it quite easy to picture mentally – especially since, having previously experienced just how much mess a litre-bottle spilt on the floor actually makes, it gives a better idea of volume etc.
Incidentally, as a frequent blood donor myself (thank you, haemochromatosis), and thus being more aware of the volume of blood donated at each session (the average appears to be 450ml, or 0.45 litres per blood bag filled) and needing to know how long it takes red blood cells and plasma to recover after donation–
about 24 hours for plasma, and up to 8 weeks for red blood cells themselves, which is why the average length between donations is 12 weeks, to ensure the body is well recovered by the next donation (which is also why I was so fucking tired after having to donate once a month for the first three months of my treatment)
– I ended up doing a bit of reading re: blood loss, but this really is the best imagery for it I’ve seen without bogging down into too much science stuff.
Other crucially important facts relevant to vampire porn I have learned:
yes, you can get an erection after donating blood, as the body generally maintains blood pressure equilibrium even if the volume of red blood cells per liquid ml is lower, though if you lose anything more than half a litre you’re probably gonna find it a bit difficult;
erythropoietin is a funky chemical involved in converting stem cells to red blood cells which your body produces when you need more of ‘em, so if we’re going with the standard ‘vampire saliva is an anticoagulant and narcotic stimulant, and/or induces arousal’ conceit, it probably makes sense that said saliva introduces a similar compound into the human blood stream in the post-feeding stage to encourage their food to recover quickly for a repeat feeding, usually while licking the wounds left behind;
your vamp is probably gonna have a really full belly if they try and drink more than the average 450ml or so in one sitting. Blood is quite a bit thicker than water or soft drink; it’s more like drinking a hearty broth or soup. Can you imagine attempting to chug a litre of pressurised soup as it squirts into your mouth with considerable force? No thanks!
tl;dr the science behind blood loss is fascinating, especially in a vampire context, and the government agencies monitoring my search history probably think I’m a serial killer
@audreycritter was it you who was looking this up for a fic last week?
if your vampire’s killing folks, it’s because they left a couple of great big spurting holes in a jugular, not because they actually drank all their blood. we gotta stop having the scene where the detective says the victim was ‘completely drained of blood’ unless there were like 5 vamps involved.
or if your vamp goes waddling away with a bloated tummy like a milk-drunk kitten, that could work too.
FYI: I just added more things to the 2018 Goth Fashion Resources board on Pinterest, including a bunch of things to plus-size friendly and men’s and/or gender-neutral. The new items added to men’s and/or gender-neutral are all pictured on women, but they’d be good for anyone who wants flowy, drapey, dark mori sorts of things.
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Look, look! There’s a new post at Gothic Charm School, and it’s the holiday gift guide! Full of links to interesting artists and companies that you should buy goodies from!
(Let me use more exclamation points! They work like coffee, right?!!)
Since you said green and purple, I’m going to assume you’re using semi-permanent dyes (such as Manic Panic, Splat, Special FX, and so on), so my advice will be around that.
Heat or time. You either need to heat the dye on your head (which opens the hair cuticle so the dye penetrates better), or let it sit for at least an hour. (Because I work from home, I can leave my dye in for as long as I want, and I usually go for at least 3 hours.)
Rinse in cool to cold water.
Some people use a vinegar + water rinse after rinsing out the dye. I’ve done that in the past, but haven’t found it makes that much difference in extending the life of the color.
Wash your hair less often, and with a gentle shampoo. Washing always fades the color. (I only wash my hair once a week, and it’s fine.
Add a few tablespoons of your dye to your conditioner to refresh the color when you wash your hair. WARNING: this will stain your hands, but baby wipes or Dr. Bronner’s soap with a smidge of coconut oil (any oil, really) will remove the stain.
Maintaining unnaturally colored hair takes some effort, but I think it’s worth it. I hope my tips help! 🙂
so last fall i somehow stumbled upon instafreebie and things slowly snowballed out of control from there and now i’m just drowning in free books all the time. not the worst problem to have for sure. and they’re ebooks so they take up virtually no space! anyway i thought i’d put together a list of all the resources i’ve found over the past several months in case anyone is interested. Yes, the quality varies, but honestly you can say that with ‘best seller’ books as well and some free series i’ve found are actually really good.
book rebel – this one is relatively new and i only joined it maybe a month or so ago but i’ve already downloaded a few books they’ve shown me. after you sign up you tell them the genres you are interested in and which sites you buy books from and they will send you a new list of popular free or reduced price books every day. i’ve noticed that this one has more 99c books than actually free but it’s a good resource nonetheless.
cheap thrills books – scroll down a little bit on the page to sign up. this one also sends you an email every day with free and reduced price books. there are usually at least two free ones and all of them are under $4. oftentimes there are boxsets as well. most of the book are mystery/thriller but there are some good scifi/fantasy ones in there as well.
daily free books – this is by far the largest and most comprehensive one i’ve found. you can sign up and pick up to 15 genres to track, meaning that every day you will get an email telling you all the new free ebooks in that genre. you can also just browse the site to see ALL the free ebooks they have and there is a ‘top rated’ category as well, in case you’d rather not take a chance on something that only has like two reviews. i’ve found entire series for free through this site because often an author will make the first novel free one week then the second free the next and things like that, so if you keep a close eye on it you can really snag some good stuff.
instafreebie– this site will send you an email every weekday with 3 featured books in a certain genre [monday is romance, thursday is YA, etc] and will also link you to giveaways where several authors are listing free books all on one page that usually fit a certain theme. every time you download a book from instafreebie you are signed up for the author’s newsletter, but you can easily unsubscribe if you don’t want your inbox to get too cluttered. if you like the author and they don’t send a ton of emails i would recommend keeping the subscriptions though because often they will offer exclusive freebies and ask for beta readers through their newsletter, as well as linking you to free / on sale books by other authors. the prolific reader currently lists 300+ books you can download from instafreebie if you aren’t sure where to start.
library thing – this one is a little bit different than the others i’ve listed so far because they give away review copieswhich means you actually need to read and review them on their website. every month they give away a certain number of copies of several books in their early reviewer section so you aren’t guaranteed to get one but i’ve only been doing it for a few months and i’ve got every book i’ve requested. really the trick is to pick something that sounds good but also has a lot of copies or not many requesters. there’s also the member giveaway section [top left, under the logo], where there are other giveaways that don’t run on a monthly basis, and i’ve gotten a few books from there so far as well.
netgalley – this site also does review copies. once you make an account you’ll want to go to the read now section and get some books from there, because you can read them immediately without having to be accepted by the publisher. once you have read several books in this section [and linked your goodreads and amazon review pages in your bio] you can start requesting books from other sections to read. another catch with netgalley is that you have to read the books before they are ‘archived’, usually on or shortly after the publication date, and also that the files you download are only good for a certain amount of time before they expire and you can’t view them anymore. also some publishers [like tor] won’t accept you if you don’t have a book blog, but don’t worry there are still a lot of books you can get just by reviewing on goodreads and amazon.
reading addicts – this one sends you a weekly email with free and 99 cent books. it’s basically like the ones i listed at the beginning except it’s once a week instead of every day.
seriously you can get so many free books this way i’ve got literally hundreds that i have yet to read and i download new ones every day. you’ll never run out of things to read. these are all the ones i use currently but i’d love to hear about others that i’ve missed!
note: i have signed up for edelweiss but it’s such a confusing site that i haven’t really done anything with it yet, so if anyone has some guides on what is going on over there i’d love to see them. it looks to have a lot of overlap w/ netgalley but i know a lot of people say they get denied on NG but approved on EW and vice versa so maybe something to check out.
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