please, keep writing. keep drawing. keep painting. please keep making your art no matter how many may try to push you down. the world does not have nearly enough artists.
Well, unless you are going to only write stories in which nice things happen to nice people, you are going to write stories in which people who do not believe what you believe show up, just like they do in the world. And in which bad things happen, just as they do in the world. And that’s hard.
And if you are going to write awful people, you are going to have to put yourself into their shoes and into their head, just as you do when you write the ones who believe what you believe. Which is also hard.
I think that knowing what you believe, writing fiction informed by what you believe, and knowing that your fiction has a moral grounding (if it does) is the best thing for an author. And not worrying about what readers think of you, any more than you’d worry about what your parents or lovers might think if they read your fiction.
It’s something that I thought a lot about a long time ago, when one young man killed his lover, and then killed himself, and tried to frame Sandman (and me) for it. And the conclusion I came to was that you have to be good in your heart with what you’ve written. And beyond that, you cannot worry.
not everybody has been exposed to what you have, or has seen what you’ve seen or felt what you’ve felt. so their priorities and abilities are different from yours. that’s why you can’t compare their accomplishments or their journey to your own. you don’t see the mountains you’ve conquered as mountains because the view you’re seeing is skewed. you can’t always trust your own eyes when they’re looking at yourself. you can only strengthen your mind; tell yourself that you’re different and your battle is unique. remind yourself that you’re winning your fight just by surviving.
Effective for easing bloating (a common companion of Aunt Flo), menstrual cramps and fatigue, the cooling peppermint tea is a powerful ammunition that you can arm yourself with.
Now, the secret ingredient we are talking about here is menthol.
Menstrual cramps are commonly caused by contractions and spasms of our uterus muscles. Therefore, with its anti-spasmodic properties, peppermint tea helps to treat the muscles in the walls of the uterus. Apart from relieving discomfort caused by your cramps, it is also commonly used as a stress and fatigue reliever. Drink 1 cup of peppermint tea 2-3 times a day before and during days of your menstruation and you can expect to experience a major improvement in your mood and cramps.
Cinnamon Tea
Similar to peppermint tea, cinnamon has anti-spasmodic properties that helps to reduce cramps and menstrual pain. As an added bonus, it also works great as an anti-inflammatory which means that it is able to offer pain relief for your cramps!
To make cinnamon tea, you can simply add cinnamon to some water and boil it for 15 minutes. For some sweetness, add in your preferred choice of milk or honey. That said, if cinnamon tea is not the thing for you, you can always opt to sprinkle them on to your smoothies/ porridge/ pancakes and experience the same benefits!
Red Raspberry Leaf Tea
Red raspberry leaf cleanses the blood of the excess hormone and minimises any hormonal imbalance. Containing both fragarine and tannins, this tea will aid you in your combat against PMS symptoms such as cramps, nausea and diarrhea.
For heavy bleeders, this tea also helps to tighten the muscles in your pelvic region which also helps to reduce the cramps that are caused by spasms. For relieving those nasty PMS symptoms, simply start having them 1-2 weeks before your period and continue having them through your period to slow down the blood flow.
Chamomile tea
Chamomile tea not only helps with bowel movements but it is also known to help ease menstrual cramps and bring crankiness level down a notch!
I can confirm that drinking raspberry tea is AMAZING for helping with cramps. A cup of that and some naproxen in the morning and I can go the whole day without feeling too much like trash. Even on day one when my cramps can be debilitating this little trick makes it bearable. Not to mention the raspberry gives me a little boost of energy when loss of blood has me feeling exhausted.
My doctor was actually the one who recommended this to me, but it’s always good to check with the medical professional you visit because everyone’s body is different!
quick thought before bed but when it comes to wank in a book fandom of all places maybe yall can be a little gentler on people who aren’t native english speakers? i guess if your whole role in a fandom is to be a jerkoff to everyone maybe you don’t take the time to get to know everybody and maybe it doesn’t occur to you that between the language barrier or whatever whacky translation they’re reading maybe they perceived the text differently????? we don’t all have the same access or experiences.
just an idea.
be fucking nice!
What happened to “treat others as you would be treated”? Oh, when you can trample someone else for thought crimes, including holding a different interpretation than yours. Right.
Yep, it IS deeply unsettling to think about how someone’s life could be ruined over a false accusation. There’s something intoxicating about saying you’ve found a monster and want to rally ppl to your cause to go destroy it. That’s been around since long before the internet and will go on in whatever form of communication people have available, whether the monster is a real one or not.
“btw, I’ve talked on private with that blog and it turns out they are a p*******e. y’all know what to do.”
^I feel terrible saying this, but I couldn’t trust this person at face value. Maybe if it was a very close friend, but even then, I wouldn’t mobilize ppl online to attack the accused person. I’m not a police officer, I would probably tell that victim to go to the police. The police have the tools to find the accused, the time and training to build the evidence properly and legally.
Keep in mind, too, that tweets/chats/etc. can be digitally manipulated, like this tweet (although it could be real for all I know, but I would hope not):
Then there’s the thornier matter of people who ARE guilty of offenses, from the small to the large. There are abusers out there who trawl for prey. There are also people who wrote something in the past that they may have apologized for and definitely deeply regret.
I’ve certainly made mistakes and written cruel things I would take back if I could. I can’t apologize enough or genuinely enough for how I’ve hurt people.
[Imagine holding that much authority that you ruin part of someone’s life.]
…And so often they end up with a rabble ready to crucify anyone who doesn’t do as they are told, and that’s when I really run for the hills…
^I’m of the belief that no individual online should have that kind of power, this is why we have a legal system which determines guilt and punishments fairly. No judicial system is perfect but it has to be better than some stranger online telling a mob to pick up torches and pitchforks to attack another stranger online.
There’s this… phenomenon… I’ve witnessed in several fandoms, where a particular blog gets really popular within a fandom.
And suddenly that blog will start getting people literally asking them for permission to hold certain opinions. I don’t mean someone just asking “hey can I get your feelings/opinions on this subject” but “is it okay if I think/do xyz?” like some child asking their parent if they can go somewhere.
Worse, is when these blogs start taking these questions seriously and feeding them answers. Like they suddenly start believing that they truly have this authority. I mean it’s bad enough when people do this and the blogger is just like “well I have my own opinion but don’t ask me” but when they start to actually act like they can tell other people what they are “allowed” to do.
This I the creepiest fucking thing on tumblr I swear.
Why would you give some random stranger on the internet that much power over your mind? Why would you be so afraid of forming your own opinions that you have to ask someone else to give you opinions to hold?
And so often they end up with a rabble ready to crucify anyone who doesn’t do as they are told, and that’s when I really run for the hills…
It probably looks a little egotistical to reblog this post, as someone who relates to having the “particular blog gets really popular within a fandom,” but I deeply agree with this post from both sides. It has been suggested to me privately that my opinions hold sway over people and I have a responsibility to answer a certain way so that the other fans aren’t led astray, that they are so gullible that they take my every word as fact. I sincerely hope that this is not the case.
I refuse this responsibility bc that’s not the kind of blog I want to have. I don’t want anyone taking my opinions as an authority, or the Law of the Land or whatever… *~popularity~* shouldn’t give me any more authority than anyone else!
Please don’t feel like you have to literally ask anyone for permission to hold certain opinions. I’m happy to share my ideas, but they are only my ideas. I’m a random stranger on the internet! I love my followers, the interactions we’ve had, the messages you’ve sent me publicly and privately over the past few years have kept my blog alive, and I can’t thank you enough for that ❤
But! If I can just paraphrase from the above, Do not give some random stranger on the internet that much power over your mind! Don’t be so afraid of forming your own opinions that you have to ask someone else to give you opinions to hold!
Please do not become part of some random stranger on the internet’s rabble ready to crucify anyone who doesn’t do as they are told!
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