Ten things I practice as a woman artist:

  1. Thank people who compliment my art.
  2. Agree with people who compliment my art.
  3. Avoid deprecating my own art (for example with self-hating language in hashtags like #mystupidart or #Imsuchtrash).
  4. Avoid apologizing for my art.
  5. Avoid defending my art to people who aren’t interested in helping me grow for my sake.
  6. Do not accept or internalize criticism that comes without my consent.
  7. Share my older art from time to time as a reminder of my growth.
  8. Celebrate accomplishments and milestones.
  9. Write and talk about my art so I’m more aware of my choices.
  10. Take my art seriously, even if I’m being silly. Always respect myself.

About fandom friends: to be honest, it’s not really enough to reblog, comment, and prompt, when there already exists a more or less well-formed circle, or circles. You still lack that connective string of someone noticing you as more than a random fan ask. Without it you’ll be stuck at the edge of the fandom friends for a very long time. That’s only my experience though, and I’m not placing blame on others! I’m sure that interacting is easier for someone more out-going than me. :)



I mean…you have to start somewhere. Just get your name out there, recognize people, get recognized, and then interact more with the people you like?? I’ve been here two years now and this is what I did and do. It’s really not much more complicated than that.

It might help to realize that we’re all just giant nerds who like to talk about norse bros fucking and no one will think you’re being annoying when you try to put yourself out there! Like, yes, come yell with us!

Ok so I have more thoughts. This is actually something that maybe I’ve learned with age? And I’m saying you do this personally, anon, this just kind of general advice for a general “you”, but… You can’t simply…exist somewhere and expect to have people notice you or make friends. You can’t go to a party and sit against the wall looking lonely and not talking and expect to meet people. You can’t even just stand there in a group of people laughing and nodding. You have to make an effort! You have to say hi, and be friendly, and add your thoughts, and ask people about their thoughts…and if you ever want to see them again after that party you have to make it happen. And sure, maybe you might get turned down? But if you don’t try, the answer is always no. I know this is hard. It is! It’s really hard! It’s nerve wracking to put yourself out there like that! And to keep doing it! But the thing to realize is that most people are pretty friendly, and if you DO screw up your courage and put yourself out there, USUALLY good things happen.

Also, this is my personal invitation to anyone who’s ever wanted to talk to me and hasn’t…please do! I love making new friends! But I can’t be your friend unless I know who you are! ❤



Hey do y’all fucks remember two years ago when just before the election all these “don’t vote both parties are bad” or “vote independent!” Posts were going around and then Trump won and now two weeks before midterms there’s all these “don’t bother voting, revolution is the only way!” And “your vote isn’t gonna matter and is an ineffective way to protest” posts are going around? Yeah knock that shit right the fuck off, don’t fall for it and get your ass to the polls, we are not doing this again.

“Remember when people didn’t vote bc they said there was no difference between Hillary and Trump, and now there are child concentration camps(Zack Bornstein)

“I know voting can be a pain in the ass, so just pretend like, if you don’t vote, children will be ripped from the arms of a parent who crawled across a desert to give them a better life and put in cages.” (Laurie Kilmartin)

We now KNOW FOR A FACT that Russian writers were paid to study US politics and make posts on social media to influence the election. We know FOR A FACT this happened ON TUMBLR. There is every reason to believe that’s still happening: 

State Dept. Was Granted $120 Million to Fight Russian Meddling. It Has Spent $0

Right now, if you want to continue to have a democracy, the only thing that matters is eliminating Republican majorities, everywhere. That means voting for Democrats. It truly doesn’t matter how you feel about the Democratic party. Right now, your choices are between Republican despots who are taking away citizens’ right to vote in every way they can manage– or Democrats, who still want you to have a say in your government. It’s up to you, this year. By 2020, if Republicans have their way, it may not be up to us anymore.


I want to make something clear real quick

my goal isn’t to make anyone think exactly the same way I do. i want you to think for yourself. 

don’t swallow my posts wholesale w/out thinking. don’t swallow what fandom policers say wholesale w/out thinking. don’t parrot other people without thinking. 

ask yourself if people are being honest before believing them


think about the words people use. ‘always’, ‘all’, ‘never’ and ‘nobody’ are absolutes; in reality, there’s almost always exceptions to the rule.

generalizations are not always trustworthy & can’t be applied to individuals. (that might be a generalization about generalizations.) 

there are abusers who call themselves shippers. there are abusers who call themselves anti-pedophilia/incest/abuse. there are abusers who ship pairings you consider abusive and abusers who ship only the fluffy, safe pairings. abusers can use anything to abuse, so don’t believe people who say ‘my space is abuser-free.’ (it isn’t.)

it’s easy to get turned around and thrown off by people who argue dishonestly. if they can’t answer simple questions about their position, you should probably ask somebody else who knows more.

shaming and guilting are not arguments. people who try to shame or guilt you into agreeing with them are not treating you kindly. be cautious about listening to them.

talk to people you trust. get blog recs; read different arguments & come to your own conclusions. know where you stand and why you stand there. know that it’s not wrong to change your mind if new evidence persuades you.

and know that you never have to tell anyone what you conclude if you don’t want to. that’s your business. you don’t have anything to prove to me or anyone else.

I just want everyone to have confidence in their ability to think for themselves and do what’s best for themselves – and not just in fandom. in everything. and I think that learning how to draw your own conclusions is the best way to protect yourself from being used or abused by someone trying to force their ideals down your throat.




Guillermo del Toro at the TimesTalks discussion on The Shape of Water


Inspired by a HEART WRENCHING moment in @monstersinthecosmos Marius/Santino hatesfucking(drinking?) drabble I’ve drawn a smiling Children of Satan/Darkness Armand. Getting into the spooky aura of October it’s dusty Armand in the last place he should be all chipper. 




lots of revelations in Blood Communion. (click-thru for better res.)


I’m late but it’s the thought that counts.
Vampires Cosplaying other Vampires for VCInktober 2018!!!

Here we have Daniel and Armand dressed as Eli and Oskar from Let the Right One In.


InktoberVC Day 01: Cosplaying Another Vampire!

I have this headcanon about Daniel and Armand trolling the Club Kid scene in the early 90′s, before they broke up. If I had more time I’d show you that Armand was wearing black wings and had electrical tape on his nipples and a ton of body glitter and was rolling his eyes because Daniel was just being a complete nuisance. 


Younger-ish Marius and typical nightmare age Lestat.
This is my attempt at drawing two white blond men without suffering same-face too much. I will say, in my present style for both Marius and Lestat they have similar noses and lips already. But compare them to how I draw Armand, Daniel, or Nicki and hopefully the effect is more pronounced. 

Before I even read the caption I was thinking Wow this is a great comparison of the way similar looking characters can each be uniquely defined in subtle ways… and that’s exactly what you were aiming for, so kudos to you!