First of all, let it be known loud and clear that I am not willing to speak openly about my sex life with Louis, if only for fear of it coming to a screeching halt for my lack of respect to his privacy. So I’m not going to talk about Louis and what predilections he may or may not have towards oral sex.
That being said, you should know that any reticence towards oral sex in our relationship has never come from Louis, but from me.
I have a complicated relationship with oral sex, for reasons I won’t go into. But what you should know in regards to your Significant Other is this:
Do they want to do it? If so, be patient. It will happen with time.
Do they love you? Then be patient. Be encouraging. Be kind.
Someone who is “shy” about giving/receiving oral sex has a reason, and that reason is probably psychological. While it isn’t necessarily your job to dig into those psychoses, it is your job as their lover and better half to know and understand what they may be, and to be with them as they traverse the complicated path of their past/fears/baggage.
Again, I say, be patient. Be their lover in every sense of the word.
The most patient man in the world held my hand in the rediscovery of the world of physical love, and I owe him far more than he will ever truly know.
And, not to brag, but his patience paid off. In spades.
I thought I had read all of Keats’ work, as my version of his poems is “the collected” but I found a 700 page book called “complete poems” and there were so many I never hear of and I started crying and a librarian asked me if I was okay.
We love what we love. Reason does not enter into it. In many ways, unwise love is the truest love. Anyone can love a thing because. But to love something despite. To know the flaws and love them too. That is rare and pure and perfect.
~Patrick Rothfuss, from The Wise Man’s Fear (via violentwavesofemotion)
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