Dolce & Gabbana Fall 2013 Menswear
Give me someone who has some fucked up tastes in fiction, but is kind and respectful to real people, over someone who only ever ships the healthiest ships and stans the purest characters, but is rude and cruel to real people, any day of the week.
Your goddamn fictional preferences don’t show what kind of person you are; your actions do.
It’s not a hard concept to grasp.
All the people I’ve met who ship hardcore mindgames/ abuse/ sex-pollen/ noncon/ chan/ cross-generation/ torture fic… are absolute sweethearts who will go out of their way to help other fen, who will support others going through crises, who will tell people, “that relationship sounds abusive – here’s what you can do to get out, and if you’re not willing to give up on it, here’s the techniques you can use to claim the space you need within it.”
It’s almost like reading abusive filth about corrupt perverts gives you a sense of awareness of where the lines should be, and how important it is for people to be compassionate to each other – because we understand what kind of things can happen when people are not.
That.
I’ve had the same experience. And honestly – I’ve mentioned this before, but when I was younger, some of the most important conversations I had about what consent is or what abuse looks like came out of fandom, and specifically, discussions around pieces of fanfic. These weren’t conversations I was having at home, or with my IRL friends, and they sure as hell weren’t conversations I was getting through school.
Wow, it’s almost like reading and talking about fiction plays a crucial role in exploring ideas and moral questions. 🙂
I also know fans who are there solely for the sweetest and healthiest of fluff who are absolutely wonderful people. But the small subset who believe that anything that is not Cinnamon-Roll Pure is not just something they want to avoid, but something that should not be allowed to exist – I’m wary of those folks, specifically because of that black-and-white approach. It seems it’s a short distance from, “Your ships must be the purest of the pure, or else they are Bad,” to, “Your ships must be the purest of the pure, or else YOU are Bad.”
i went to see Perturbator tonight with @yureiyume and we pregramed at a vegetarian restaurant with @i-want-my-iwtv and it was pretty magical okay
10/10 passionate IRL convo about vampires over hard cider was passionate
Yaaaaasss was awesome to meet up in meatspace w/ these lovely VC fandom ppl and talk their ears off about the adaptations we’re (never) gonna get lol! Apparently @yureiyume lives across the Hudson River from me omg! More RL meetups in the future ;}
FYI I finally got my Lestat concert shirt by @jealizing so here it is so y’all can seeee it:
(^medium scoop neck in navy)
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Is this a kiss? Like XOX? Hmmm?
SHIP AESTHETIC @deorleans – louis/armand from Interview With The Vampire
`I wanted love and goodness in this which is living death,’ I said. `[…] And yet I would not accept it, could not accept it, because like all creatures I don’t wish to die! […] And when I came to Paris I thought you were powerful and beautiful and without regret, and I wanted that desperately. But you were a destroyer just as I was a destroyer, more ruthless and cunning even than I. You showed me the only thing that I could really hope to become, what depth of evil, what degree of coldness I would have to attain to end my pain. And I accepted that. And so that passion, that love you saw in me, was extinguished. And you see now simply a mirror of yourself.’
IMAGES NOT MINE.
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